Rest Series (4/8): Social Rest

During the period I was resting, social rest was also part of it. I socially rested from friends and family. I also socially rested from colleagues and took social things off my calendar that were no longer what I needed.

Becoming Intentional.

I became intentional with who I hung out with, and who was on my schedule, and things that provided a place for me to feel restored versus me feeling drained.

I am also an introvert so my nervous system has always been keenly aware of when I have needed to socially rest. Even when I am in a room of people I know when I need to disconnect for a bit. I will walk outside, go to the bathroom or just begin to listen. Because of this, I have always enjoyed smaller groups and one-to-one time with friends.

I made sure the people I was spending time with were people who got me. They know how I think and I don’t have to explain myself.

Attending to your needs

Social rest can look like taking the night off from being with friends and family. Giving yourself nourishment by staying in and doing something you want to do.

It can also look like being with people who support you and provide a safe place just to be yourself.

Here are a few tips to try when you are in need of social rest:

-        Be around people you don’t have to compete with.

-        Spend more time with people who nourish and inspire you.

-        Spend less time with people who deplete you.

-        Take a walk with a close friend.

-        Have a night in where you are taking care of yourself.

-        Take a break from socializing. Start with a night or two or even extend it for an entire week.

-        Socialize with yourself. Do something to get to know yourself better.

-       Take yourself on a date.

To Socialize or Not to socialize that is the question?

If you need help navigating social rest and how this might impact your mental health reach out today. As a therapist and counselor in Ogden, UT, I specialize in anxiety and stress, high-functioning depression and trauma and PTSD. Call or text 385-240-0689 today to set up a free 15-minute consultation. You can also email me at kristi@illuminetherapy.com.